Tuesday, October 7, 2014

"never leave without saying goodbye"

its a lesson that i learned when working at BT

and is true not only for parents dropping off their toddlers at daycare, but with all people, of all ages in all stages of life

....and also in death

this past week i said goodbye to a friend i had not seen in months
and maybe i had not actually been friends with in years

but i remember him fondly
am grateful for the closeness we shared during that part of our lives. in that time and space, over five years ago now.

there is a part of me that feels guilty for missing that time as much as i miss him. that his death for me not only marks the end of his life, but a more definite end of a time in my own life. how selfish.

it's incomprehensible to think about a person being a part of this world and then suddenly gone from it.

i wanted to say more, but i'm not sure what. mostly i just wanted to say goodbye.







4 comments:

Lindsey Anthony-Bacchione said...

Experiencing the loss of someone without some sort of closure is a complex grief. But I have found that life presents other opportunities to say goodbye to people even if they aren't around to hear it.

RolandoE said...

estan en casa armando y marta maria y se acaba de morir la mama de marta.

Carmen said...

saludos y besos para los dos

daleboca said...

very nicely written. i am sorry for your loss. death is completely incomprehensible and mostly unacceptable to me.