- don't leave a baby alone on a couch
- don't get into a power struggle about food
- don't try to put a child to sleep if you are frustrated - ask for help
- sit with a child when they are eating
- finish what you start
- make sure kids have both hands free when climbing
- if a fish dies, don't hide it from a kid, tell them it died
- you want kids to be successful, help create situations in which they can be (don't leave a kid that is biting alone next to a potential victim)
- kids want to know that you are in charge - it makes them feel safe
- never start a sentence "do you want to ____?" if what you mean is "i want you to____" the "do you want" opens up the possibility of a "no" response
- give kids choices (again, make sure all the choices are things YOU actually want as well)
- try to avoid using the word "no" when possible (except when necessary)
- always say goodbye
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i often invoke peggy and wonder "what would peggy do?" - one of my proudest creations- and i always miss her!!
regarding the use of NO.
say it as little as possible, but when you say it, mean it !!
do not make threats that you will not be able to go by: ie " if you do not get dressed immediately I'm leaving without you" (they know positively you CANT do that )
more:
hug them at every possible chance.
tell them you love them very often.
do not fight with your spouse in front of them and if you do do not scream, just make it a discussion.
encourage them to ask questions.
answer honestly the questions for which you have an answer.
teach them that they also have to say hello and goodbye to everybody in the room.
make them confident. praise what they are good at and do not mock them at what the do badly. encourage them always
nice, Rolando!
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